The mystical-sounding 'acceptance prophesy' is simply this: when we think other people are going to like us, we behave more warmly towards them and consequently they like us more. When we think other people aren't going to like us, we behave more coldly and they don't like us as much.As always, there is a study to back the claim and you can read about that here .
I particularly like two terms used in the article.
Social optimists
Social pessimists
Social optimists walk in 'knowing' and 'expecting' to be liked.
Social pessimists walk in 'knowing' and 'expecting' to be disliked.
What can you do?
simply, walk into every meeting, conference, interview knowing and believing that you will be liked.
that was simple.
only it isn't.
we are inherently nervous in unfamiliar situations and the additional pressure of being liked or even just accepted is huge. ask anyone walking into the first day of school, college or a new job. there should be less pressure than say an interview since you have already made it, but its not so.
here are my practical suggestions:
1. Wear something nice. you feel good about yourself, it will show.
(see grooming skills here )
2. rehearse some lines. - funny ones, your introduction, questions to ask others, etc.
3. compliment people. it always works and there is always something to compliment in everybody.
4. eat. dont go anywhere on an empty stomach unless its for a medical check up.
5. self affirmation - say something nice & positive to yourself before you leave the house or before you enter the arena.
6. listen to your 'pep up' music. (read more on motivating yourself> )
I like you, and I am sure the world is waiting to.
Cheers!
Prabhjot Bedi
The Coach
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